They are well meaning and want you to feel better, yet their advice can hurt and create a strain in your relationship.  Friends and family can take your response to mean that you do not welcome their assistance.  While you are just trying to convey the message that you have attempted and it has failed to heal you.

Harmful statements such as ‘You just don’t have enough faith in God’s ability to heal you’ or ‘You must have sin stopping God from healing you’ are common place in a world that quickly forgets or lacks understanding of 2 Corinthians 3-5 (NIV) “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.  For just as the sufferings of Christ flow over into our lives, so also through Christ our comfort overflows.”  Our struggles may seem to have ‘nothing good’ in them, however, our Heavenly Father will show us the good that can emerge from the struggle if we open our hearts and minds to His guidance.  A gentle reminder about healing and faith is evident in 2 Corinthians 12 where Paul “pleaded with the Lord” to remove the thorn from his flesh.  Abba’s response to Paul was not immediate healing.  Instead, the Lord God told Paul, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” (2 Corinthians 12: 9a, NIV).  Paul’s affliction bore witness to Christ’s power to work through human weakness, brokenness.   Paul’s words can lend comfort to all who struggle with weakness, brokenness.  “I delight in weakness, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties.  For when I am weak, then I am strong.” (2 Cor 12:10, NIV). Through each struggle, we can allow our weakness, brokenness to reveal Christ’s power.

Your struggles be they physical illness, chronic pain, terminal illness, or other afflictions of our imperfect bodies are a direct consequence of man’s fall into sin.  The struggle can do many things in wreaking havoc in a person’s life:  depression, isolation, guilt, changes in self-esteem, destructive behavior.  The list goes on… However, God does not want us to give up the fight to remain faithful to His purpose for our lives.  He wants us to persevere and overcome.  Our world defines overcome as “to defeat (someone or something), to successfully deal with or gain control of (something difficult), to affect (someone) very strongly or severely” (Merriam-Webster.com).  God has control, will defeat, and affect His Will over our struggles if we allow Him to work through us.  We overcome by allowing Christ Jesus to work through us.  We only interfere with His plan when we attempt to defeat, control, or affect our struggles without His guidance.  He has a wonderful plan for those who believe and place their trust (faith) in Him:  “No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has conceived what God has prepared for those who love him” (Isaiah 64:4, NIV).